Wednesday, September 11, 2013
WHY YOU DO THE THINGS THAT YOU DO?
It is very easy for you to develop and succeed if you just know what drives you to act the way you act for you will have a reason to change your way of doing things as long as you know the principles.
I asked different people this question and they gave me different answers like “I do what I do because I have decided to so” others said, “I do what I do because my parents asked me to do this way” and most of them fell in this answer that they do what they do because of an external force which influence them to act that way. My critical question to them was, “therefore you are doing what you do because you are programmed to do so?” many agreed with me however they were hating this argument, they wanted to have a feeling of SELF CONTROL in their life however they know that someone is controlling them, they are not free to choose a life they want and this small awareness started to create their inner conflict which triggered their personal life change.
I came back to those who responded to me that they do what they do because they have decided to do so and argued with them that, “do you mean that nobody is influencing your decision making in your life?” the next response was: “even though someone do something to influence my decision making but at the end of the day I am the one who decides to accept or not accept, so this means that I do what I do due to my final decision I make out of what I think I have to do or other people think I have to do”
This response interested me for it made me understand that I am the final decision maker in my life. My parents, teachers, friends, relatives and environment may push me to decide their way but knowing this will make me contemplate their advice and make final decision which will shape my life the way I want it to be.
I am a result of the decisions I make
Whatever you do now is because you decided to do that sometimes before, whatever you are is also an outcome of a decision you made to be so. Look at this scenario: your friend or society pushed you either by force or convincing power to accept what they want you to behave like and you started being so immediate after you said, “YES I can do that” or “anyway let me do so that I cannot embarrass them”, the point here is that, your acceptance meant your decision making, i.e. that process of accepting or rejecting something is what I call decision making. Therefore there is nothing you can do without reaching a final decision to that thing.
You can make a very quick decision or slowly contemplative decision; for instance if you want to escape some dangerous circumstance you will make a very quick decision of jumping or running away and if you want to choose a new way of living let say getting married or starting a new business you may take some time to contemplate about it before you make decision but all in all whatever you do is an outcome of the decision you make in your life (which is an agreement you make by yourself).
The decision you make
Is what makes you more successful or poor, and this is how it works to everybody. If you decided not to work hard you will end up getting its results which is underdevelopment and if you decide to work hard you will get its result which is development. This follows a law of cause and effect i.e. what you get is proportional to what you give.
The basis of your decision making
Any decision you make is an outcome of what you think, and your thought is determined by the information you have in your mind, i.e. the kind of level of information you have is what will shape your decisions; a person from village where there is no cars will think of buying a bicycle which is what he/she knows in his/her mind and he/she will decided to buy a car the day he/she get exposed to this new information (car) by either seeing it or experiencing it in different ways. Therefore what you know is always a reference to your personal decision making in your life, that is why some families are poor than others or some social groups are rich than others.
If you want to make new decisions in your life get exposed to new information. The nature of this information will be your reference to decision making so if you are exposed to business making information you may probably make decision to do business and if you are exposed to drug use information mostly you can probably decide to be a drug dealer. These new information may drive you to make new decision very quickly or slowly depending on your level of contemplation towards new things but what I know is that if you get an information repeatedly you are more likely to accept it and make decision to follow it.
What I am trying to say here is that you can be whatever you want to be by just getting exposed to the right information which will trigger your decision making follow their trend. Do you want to be rich? Seek for rich people way of doing things information, do you want to be successful in anything then seek for information about such success you want and get used to it I am sure you will end up making decision to do what it takes to be successful.
Your automatic actions
Sometime you can do something which you may think it is over your control, for instance finding yourself feeling lazy or bored, angry, stressful, so happy etc, but the fact is you can control these states of mind if you know how they come in to your body.
Any action you do is a result of your body emotion. For instance you jump out of fire because you feel pain being burnt, this emotion is an outcome of information which went into your mind through the door of your sense like skin touching such fire, this information made you to think that you are getting burnt and then you decided to jump up. Remember what you think is an outcome of what you know, and what you know shapes your body emotion which triggers you to act the same way.
If for instance you feel angry know that there is an information entered your mind which create that state of mind for instance someone stole your property, therefore in order to change your state of mind you need to think differently like finding a solution to your problem and becoming positive, that will definitely change your state of mind and your action instantly.
Sometime if you have a certain state of mind which trigger your actions which you don’t like, think of doing some different movements like walking, body exercising, listening or dancing music etc, your state of mind will instantly change and change your actions too.
All in all you do what you do because of the decision you reach by yourself in your life. I may want you do my way but it will depend on your decision to follow my wish for you to do what I want you to do. Knowing this you are free to choose a good life you want and make it happen.
All the best!
By Erick Chrispin