Thursday, October 16, 2014
Luckily this Sunday I worshiped at Nchi ya Ahadi church in Sinza Dar es salaam. I was totally consumed by their monthly theme FORGIVE, so powerful and I do not regret spending my 4 hours at this church today for my mind was unleashed and I felt so easy. I think this is actually what you need for you to succeed in life.
The teacher said FORGIVE and believe that your promise to get is constant just a matter of time and your persistence to wait will award you more blessings in whatever you need in life. Are these not good words to hear in your life? I bet they are and you real need them, next time joins this kind of churches you will probably meet what I met. FORGIVE ‘EM TO LET IT GO FOR YOU TO RELAX IN LIFE.
In my life I have realized that one among the major things that hinders my creativity level is walking with my anger in me simply because I haven’t forgiven someone. I discovered that before sleeping I must think about this person, when I wake up in the morning this person must pop up in my mind first, I will keep on thinking about this person even when I am working on something important. The bad thing about these thoughts is that I negatively think about him/her hence I feel the pain and some kind of shocks every time. It becomes very hard to let him/her go and leave me free if I haven’t forgiven.
Just imagine this is only one person who burdens me heavily, how is it if I am angry to two or three people and I haven’t forgiven all of them? I will probably go crazy and they will take all my time which I could create new things, which I could meditate and come up with new ideas and which I could enjoy my life with other people and whatever I have. This is to say that will be a grave of my success in life.
You will never have true joy until you let it go...
True joy or happiness comes from free and relaxed mind. And for you to have this state of mind you have to forgive everyone in your life. The easiest way to forgive someone is to do that to every human being before he/she has wronged you. This is due to the fact that we are differing in personality and perception on different things which assures imperfection to each other. This means that it is obvious in life that people will do something wrong to you, they will offend you as long as we differ. You will also do something wrong to them unaware thinking that you are doing the right thing. It be your wife, your husband, your parents, your children or lovely friends, they will always wrong you somewhere so you better expect this and forgive them permanently so it is easy to handle your angle the time they do so.
When someone do something wrong to me, as my anger rise up I just remember and talk to myself that this colleague is struggling to make his/her life better by doing this wrong things, and he/she think is the right way though not to me but let him/her discover the truth as he/she continues. I have forgiven him or her though I will tell him/her know what I think is right about this, if he rejects I will let him continue until he discover the truth by himself for the truth never change. After talking this way to myself, positive energy with love feeling embrace my mind and I become happy and able to continue with my happily life.
After the teachings in church…
I could feel relaxed, I just prayed for those whom I was not okay with them by that moment and forgave them. Our pastor Haris Kapiga was the first person to confess in front of us that he has forgiven all people who had wronged him. He decided to delete these anger in his mind and let it go, I could feel his freedom as he was talking by that moment, then I was wondering how the teachings has been so powerful to transform someone’s life in few hours.
Do you want to excel in your life and businesses?
Simple! Forgive and let it go.
Since it is 100% possible I then wish you all the best in forgiving your people.
By Erick Chrispin
Saturday, October 4, 2014
Do you know that the problem is not your behavior instead what determines the emergence and creation of that behavior? This is to tell you that there is something beyond your behavior and the behavior you experience having now is just an outcome of how your are programmed and conditioned before.
Many times we condemn our behavior and we do know that there is a philosophy that leads our behavior i.e. how we act many times. This is to say that for you to change the behavior you hate in you; you have to change the philosophy that leads your actions. Your philosophy is how you believe about different things and how you perceive, define and question them.
Asking wrong questions will bring wrong answers and the opposite is true. Assume if a thief has stolen your property and you ask yourself a question like: WHY ME? What answer do you get? By asking this way you mean this should happen to someone else not you. Do you know your emotional reaction to this kind of question? Okay, expect; groaning, crying, complaining and not solving a problem. But assume you ask a question like: what should I do for my property not to be stolen anymore? What answer do you get? It is obvious that solutions must flow from your mind and not groaning.
Someone is always a person of complaints and lamentation probably is due to the fact that this person is wrongly asking questions in different events happen in his/her life. Try to ask empowering questions that gives you to do solutions, start with, how should I do?
However your social culture or family nurtured you to define everything in a negative perception, you still have a chance to change your paradigm. Socialistic states made people depend on government providing them all human needs hence people believed in government support instead of their power to influence their life success. A person of this background struggle to survive in a capitalist society, he/she is always complaining the government that it doesn't take care of him/her. Change your belief and philosophy, start believing that you are full responsible for your life and government to function well. Just by doing so you will wonder how your behavior is going to be transformed.
The point here is how you define and enter-prate things determine your current behavior. So if you have a behavior you hate now, dig deeper and find out how you look at things and you will immediately discover what causes you to behave that way. Just change that perception and interpretation and change your behavior.
All the best!
By Erick Chrispin