Sunday, June 16, 2013


Assume you are owning a company which has been working for several years up to now and this time you are recruiting a new CEO and fortunately you have received two different application letters today. Reading them you found the following different information: in the first letter this guy started by introducing him/herself shortly though detailed with her/his carrier and competence information and then depicted to which extent he/she knows your companies mission, vision and values after following your works and attending some of the events you conducted before deciding to apply for this position. 

Out of such an experience she/he found his/her interest and passion to join you for his/her carrier can help to move forward your mission successfully and enable you to reach your company vision simply by giving him/her a chance to work with you.

And this next letter from a second guy is simply introducing him/herself with her age, citizenship and all the education he/she has pursued in a nutshell before she/he tells you to offer him/her a job as you have advertised. His/ her letter is short but not clear of his/her vision toward this job position and it shows he/she is desperate of life by the way he/she is begging you to help him/her so that she/he can get better life through a position you are going to give him/her. 

A question to you…

Which applicant between these two you are going to offer a job? You bet the first one, it is obvious that if you real need to expand your company you will end up offering a job to the first applicant simply because he/she seem knowing your company very well and shows you how her presence will benefit your company and she is aware of your values and seem ready to live according to them for the sake of your companies vision achievement.

If you want others accept your idea,

Simply show how you know and understand their mission and rules of their life and make sure your idea is telling them how they are going to benefit out of it, this only will start triggering their interest into your idea. And for them to not feel as if you are trying to trap their emotion make sure you also explain how this idea is going to even help both of you i.e. you also expect to personally grow your carrier and potential out of it. Let it show that there is Win-Win situation between you two however most of your presentation and explanation should explain to which extent this idea is going to benefit his/her mission whether it is his/her companies mission or any other personal life business mission.


Every person on earth has his/her values and rules that guides his/her life different from you however we are all human beings so for you to suit this person you must know his/her values and rules which guide his/her decision making, behaviors and response to different things so that you can communicate accordingly to understand and accept each other.

For instance when your rule says: to feel loved is when your wife respect and obey each and every command you offer, your wife’s rule for love may be: to feel loved is when my husband listen and take care of my opinions. If you both two don’t communicate and understand each other’s rules on what is to be loved, you are sure of quarrels, misunderstanding and fights everyday which may lead to the breakdown of your relationship.


Imagine if you could be aware of your wife’s or husband’s rule or interpretation of being loved before! Probably all the misunderstanding couldn’t rise for you could treat him/her accordingly and probably sit down together and agree on which rule you could together rely to live so that you both feel loved the same way. 

This is what you should understand from here…

If you want other people to accept your idea you must make sure you learn and know them in detail especially their values and rules which guide their life, their decision making, behavior and of course their vision and mission so that you can fit your idea into their perspectives and make them discover that you are also fitting in their kingdom. Out of this they are going to be your friend and convinced to accept you and your idea.

If it is a company or organization you want to sell your idea, take time to learn them through their website, social media links, brochures, visit their office and if they sometimes conduct some indoor or outdoor public events make sure you attend them just to know them, if is a single person let say a person you want him/her become your lover or friend in business try to interact with him/her and ask important questions which will enable him/her tell you how he/she define or interpret what you want to impose to him/her as an idea so that you can be able to shape your presentation according to him or her. 

Ask a person you want to propose her/him become your lover the question like, “what makes you feel loved?” what does love mean in your life etc., these kind of questions will help you understand which values and rules shape his/her behavior in terms of being into relationship and of course discover if you are fitting into her/him before joining your hand. 

Remember you will always be convinced with someone who shows to be familiar with you and his/her idea suits your life’s mission so do the same to other people you want to convince them accept your idea.

Good luck!

By Erick Chrispin

Sunday, June 2, 2013


Are you aware that people are always smiling at you the moment you give them a smile? People love you by the moment you love them? People thank you after you have appreciated them? People come to your side as you go into their side and they give you something as a result of you giving them something relevant before etc.?
You may now start understanding what I mean here; if you want to get what you want from others simply give them what they want. This means that for you to get anything you must give first. This goes deeper into every sphere of life from observable to non-observable things. If you want people to laugh at you just lough at them and if you want people to give you money support be good in giving others such kind of support which is not necessarily the same people. 

We are living in a social network 

You may give something good to a person of different context from where you are living and your support is going to be appreciated by a person from another different context simply because our society is made up of social relation i.e. we relate to each other in different ways which makes us meet by different processes of life. 

For instance you may help a friend of mine who is living in New York and I am living in Dar es salaam Tanzania and without you knowing, this friend of mine share with me about what you did to him/her and as long as you visit Tanzania then I find a way to thank you by giving you something good which will show my appreciation to what you did to my friend. By this way you will obvious get what you want from other people (me) surprisingly and it will definitely relate to the help you gave a friend of mine in terms of its value to you.

This means that...

You may not notice that what you get from other people is an outcome of what you give them because it is not necessary you get it from the same person you gave something before. What you are going to notice is that as much as you are able to give is proportional to what you get from other people, therefore this means that for you to get what you want from other people you must develop a habit of giving. And this shouldn’t be giving with an intention to get because by doing so you might end up disappointed and frustrated by not getting what you want for everything comes to you in its right time and not your right time. What you can do now is to develop a belief in giving which will make you receive indirectly. 

This principle can heal your relationship challenges 

Don’t wonder why your wife/ husband, girlfriend/boyfriend, relative or friend etc. is not showing you a love you want, it might be true that you are not showing him or her the same love you want to see from him/her or you are showing it in a wrong way. The way you define love will determine the way you treat your lover and the way he/she is responding to your treatment. For instance if to you love is being jealous to your lover then don’t wonder why he/she is betraying and cheating you as she or he is searching for freedom from you. And mind you that this is just one factor which may lead your lover to cheat you but there are other factors which in reality are just response to how you treat your lover. 

One may cheat you because you are also cheating, cheat you because you are not giving him or her enough love to satisfy him or her, cheating you because you don’t care much the value of your relationship, cheating you because you haven’t agreed what it means by cheating between you two; may be to him/her cheating is just covering your absence and it looks normal  etc., at least you are a cause which makes you get what you deserve and for you to get what you want you must start giving such a thing to your people. 

This principle is very direct

What do you want now? Is it happiness with people? Then be happy with them, is it being loved then show a correctly defined love to him/her/them, is it being respected? Then respect them, is it quietness? Then be quite, is it being understood? Then try to understand him/her or them, is it financial support? Then be ready to support others in their problems in different ways, is it cooperation from others? Then be ready to cooperate with them, is it being listened? Then listen him/her or them and so forth. 

You can get whatever you want from other people simply start believing in giving what you want so that you can receive.

Good luck!
By Erick Chrispin