Are you also facing a
challenge of hating negative and critical feedback from other people?
This is a big
challenge to most of us; without knowing, it makes us dormant in improving our
life and we wonder why we are not succeeding like others.
This day I was reading a book written by Jack Canfield (The success principles) and he shared the way you can use negative and critical feedback to
improve your life in different careers. I decided I should use such a technique
in my seminar a day after where it gave me a number of constructive feedback which improved the way I have to run my seminars next time. And all these feedback were coming from my seminar participants.
1 up to 10 Rule
You can just ask this question to anybody; your staff
members, boss, wife, children, friends, workmates or anyone you think would
give you constructive feedback for improving yourself; “how many points are you
giving me between 1 to 10 in for instance my business, training facilitation,
my relation to you etc? The response should be any number let say 8. After that
ask this person; what should I do so that you rate or give me 10? The response
will be all the things you should improve and however those feedback will sound
critical but they are those if you work on them you are sure to be improved in
that specific area.
As I applied this technique in my seminar every participant
rated me his/her own number. Some said 8 some 9 and some 10. Those who rated
below 10 I started asking them about what should I do to get 10 and these were
some of the constructive feedback I got:
§ I should reduce lectures and allow
the participants work in groups
§ I should give them a break during the
seminar simply because that day I didn't do that
§ I should use more games and role
plays etc.
The fact is, that day I didn't apply most of these methods in
my seminar due to some reasons but how if I didn't use this method to ask my
participants? Then I couldn't know and remember the importance of these methods
next time and my seminar couldn't be improved probably.
Some of them gave me 10 and my question to them was, “what
should I do to maintain this 10 next time?” and this allowed them to tell me
what I have to add in my seminar facilitation and I wrote down all these feedback from which I applied in the next seminar somewhere else hence I could
feel improved.
Try out!
According to Jack Canfield and my trial, this method applies
everywhere. You can even ask your wife or husband to rate you in terms of your
relationship to him/her throughout past week and the response will be all the
things that your partner would like you to change and improve in your
relationship. What you have to do is being positive towards negative or
critical feedback plus not defending yourself when someone gives you that
negative feedback and instead thanking them for being ready and honest to share
with you plus promising them to use their feedback improving yourself next
time.
This will work as a kind of appreciation to them and it will
make them free to share with you again next time and they may also be ready to
do so without even asked by you in future hence you will be improving every
time and become more successful.
I wish you the best in transforming your life into a
successful one by taking an advantage of critical and negative feedback you get
from other people.
By Erick Chrispin
