Saturday, April 27, 2013
HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD?
What do you do when not feeling good? Bad feelings sometimes is an outcome of some frustrations however if you won’t control, it may lead to your new frustrations and stresses.
At the end of the day you will have to control your bad feeling and make yourself feel good for the sake of your enjoyable life, if you won’t do so then you are sure of acquiring all the stress related affections in your body for instance ulcers, bad blood pressure, heart attack and probably mental breakdown etc.
That is what is happening to many people in the recent world especially in urban areas where life is more complex, it forces you to be a self-made person that you need to take care of yourself because you are living in the free market economy where an individual have power to choose and determine his/her life style. In this society success is when you realize happiness in your life. We are doing whatever we do, searching for happiness and I think this is your ultimate success. You can acquire it by doing business, having more money, getting married, buying a nice car etc.
For you to feel good you have to change the state of your mind;
The feeling you have now is an outcome of an experience you have or what you are experiencing by the time being. Think of what makes you feel the way you feel now, it must be something you have experienced in your life and you got such an experience through your senses; by hearing, smelling, watching and probably touching. The information came into your mind through these doors and now you are believing into them and getting stressed, frustrated and bored. It has created a bad feeling in your mind and that is your state of mind you must change now.
Movement can change your state of mind
If you are feeling bad and stay at the same position all the time it won’t be easy for you to change the bad state of your mind, try to do something different which will shift the paradigm of your mindset and start thinking something else from which will determine the new feeling you are going to experience. Choose to engage into something good that you love most, for me it could be watching Tanzanian movies, music or going to a music concert, reading motivational books and having stories with my best friends etc. how about you? Stop thinking the same now go and engage into something good and precious you love now. That will help make you feel good.
Stop asking dis-empowering questions
I met this friend of mine who was in quarrel with his girlfriend who was no longer picking his phone for two days now, he is then getting frustrated, crying and asking questions like “why is she doing this to me?, why don’t she value my love to her? Why me- why me- why, why?” and these question didn’t offer him the solution to a problem instead they made him more guilt, stressed and frustrated to the extent he was about to make new decision of breaking his relationship with her.
Hey my friend don’t ask “WHY ME?” try to ask empowering questions like how I am I going to improve our relationship out of these quarrels, to which extent my girlfriend or boyfriend has been good to me? Keep on asking the question which will help you solve a prevailing problem instead of concentrating into questions which makes you groan and feel worse and probably give up.
When I feel bad because of some circumstances I use to ask myself on how this circumstance is beneficial and makes me grow and succeed more in my life. This is what normally change my state of mind and make me feel good.
What questions are you asking yourself now? Are they giving you answers which pushes you to improve your situation or makes you groan and feel bad of yourself? An instant change of your state of mind can happen if you will concentrate in asking empowering question like how your situation can be used to improve your life or what benefit are you getting out of such a situation etc.
Stay and improve your new state of mind
As you have shifted your bad state of mind to a new better one which makes you feel good, you better stay at it by repeating it most of your time and learning how you can improve it day to day and this will make you start believing more in it and leave aside the previous bad circumstance which made your bad state of mind. Staying and improving your new state of mind will create your new behavior which will assure you a long life good feeling.
Remember you can make yourself feeling good by changing your movement and stop asking dis-empowering question and instead concentrating in empowering questions.
Enjoy your good feeling.
By Erick Chrispin