The value of failing in your life.

THE VALUE OF FAILING IN YOUR LIFE

How do you perceive FAILING or FAILURE in your life? Are you among many of us who believe failing is bad and others believe it is sin? If you believe so then you are not wrong because it is according to how you were programed by your parents, teachers at school and may be your guardians. 

Coming to my own experience when I was at school and college, I took FAILING as being imperfect in my life because nobody ever told me that, it is FAILING which informs me what, how and why I should do it the other way round for me to SUCCEED. My teachers since kindergarten kept on telling me I do not have to fail, more than that they had been punishing me a lot when I fail even a little, they ultimately made me hate failing, become negative towards failing hence I was ready even plagiarizing some works, copy and pasting others works, stopped being creative so as I do not fail however in fact this made me fail more by the time being and became incompetent.  

FAILURE IS A FOUNDATION SUCCESS

Fortunately I came to discover that there is no success without failure. As long as success comes out of DOING SOMETHING or implementing some processes, then it means something has been FAILED and you have to do it in a right way, it doesn’t matter who failed before but at least it means you are then doing it in a right way which will make it succeeded. And for it to be more successful you will then keep on failing in your process of doing it hence your failure become a new opportunity which will give you a business (something to do).

ALL THE ADVANCEMENT OF TECHNOLOGIES ARE BASED IN FAILURE

When you see new advanced products at the market place, new improved technologies coming out every day, is because the technicians finds where they FAILED before and keep on improving them hence something new comes out as success and for them to be more successful in future they keep on searching where they have failed in the recent products/ technologies. If not FAILURE there could be no SUCCESS in your life.

CHANGE YOUR PROGRAM

How do you perceive failing in your life? Are you still living in the programs of your parents, teachers and guardians? Do you know the principle of CHANGE? It says you must seek newness by leaving the normality of the past. Be aware that what you were told about FAILING is just a social construction dogma, this doesn’t mean it is static and it can’t be changed. For you to succeed CHANGE how you were programmed in your mind. Start seeing value in any FAILURE happen in your life, see them as an opportunity to improve and achieve what you are doing. Don’t say I have failed 100 times instead say I have learnt how to do it 100 times and I am now improving every day. By saying so you will be inspired to continue until you succeed what you want.

CONCENTRATE ON WHY and NOT HOW AT FIRST,

Our problem is that when we fail we start feeling guilt and concentrating on HOW we failed, this demotivates us and we become discouraged to continue with our project. Today I want you to change your strategy. After failing start by asking yourself a question WHY DID I FAIL? This will help you to know the concrete reasons which made you fail, these reasons will help you to create a new improving strategy of how you are going to work on it so that you can improve and succeed. Keep on finding reasons behind your failure so that you can continue be working on those reasons for you to succeed.

SEE VALUE IN YOUR FAILING,

Now have you recognized value in your failing? Of course YES because it is FAILURE first then you get success. I advise you to start valuing your failure, to stop being guilty when you fail instead becoming happy by getting new opportunity to improve your project and that will be the way to your success.

“Never ever quit before you work on your potential FAILURE”

Good luck!

By Erick Chrispin

Instead of looking on HOW you failed try to see WHY you failed

Types of people

TYPES OF PEOPLE,

RECOGNIZE YOUR TYPE AND DO SOMETHING NEW FOR YOUR LIFE CHANGE

A Lot Of People Are Like Wheelbarrows –

 No Good Unless Pushed

Some Are Like Canoes – They Need to Be

Paddled

Some Are Like Kite- If you Do Not Keep a

      String On Them, They Fly Away.

Some are Like Football- You Cannot Tell

     Which Way They Will Bounce Next

Some Are Like a Balloon – Full of Air and

Ready To Blow Up.

Some Are Like a Trailer – They Have To Be

 Pulled

And Some Well, They Are Like a Good Watch –

 Open Faced, Pure Gold, Quietly Busy and

of Good Works.

By The Way, “What Kind Of Person Are

You?”

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21st Century leadership style

21^st CENTURY EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP STYLE

Are you aware that in this century there is a special style of leadership which works more effective due to the nature of your follower’s modernity? A big challenge with today’s followers or led people is that they are always flexible in terms of their personal behavior at work which is a result of challenges of life they face every day. In the recent free market economy, challenges are more and still increasing everyday compared to previous decades and century. For instance relation problems between family members, couples, friends etc, economic problems, diseases, busy movements in town and many more upsetting situations contributes much to affecting your followers mood and behavior at work.

Therefore, conventional leadership style in this nature cannot work effectively, it will end up destructing your relationship with your followers and if they are your employees you will end up deploying them and employing new ones every day. 

“If my boss could get time to understand what problem I am facing in my family, he couldn’t rant at me that way”, “a big problem is that my boss doesn’t like to listen to me so she doesn’t understand my concern hence she thinks I am lazy at work”.

 

Are you also facing this kind of challenge at work? These kinds of leaders were applicable long time ago and they are not favored by 21^st century leadership industry because life has changed as I said before.

SITUATIONAL LEADERSHIP

As leaders we need to take care of what is going on to our followers for us to lead them in a result base approach. We need to clearly understand what drives their recent behavior and action for us to get a relevant and fair decision on them. we need to be aware that every action one does is a result of his/her feeling/emotion which founded in his/her experience after facing a certain situation, so there is no any behavior and actions which comes out of its root cause. 21^st century followers need to be understood by their leaders for them to get a relief out of good and relevant treatments by their leaders; this enables them to work effectively with effort.

SELF AWARENESS & PERSONALITY MASTERY 

As a leader for you to be effective you need to work on yourself first and become aware of how your biological and psychological realm works, you need to be aware of how your cognitive reasoning works in you first. Trying to close your eyes and start feeling on how your heartbeats move, your breathing process, the touch of your clothes on your skin, feeling your feet on the ground, listening to birds sounds around where you are, trees sounds etc and open your eyes will help you to understand that there are a number of things and movement’s which goes on in your body and mind out of your conscious, and these movements which causes different feelings to occur in your body leads to new experience and behaviors hence actions to occur in your body and affect your work in one way or another. So if you find yourself ranting to someone brutally it is coming out of your feeling which is caused by something happened in you which is due to some external forces you have experienced.

SELF MANAGEMENT 

Self awareness of how your body and psychology works will definitely help you to manage yourself behavior. That means you will think before accepting your feeling forces. Before ranting or discharging someone from work, you will end up reasoning first. A self aware leader or person never admits him/herself to his/her feeling without reasoning on its foundation first. He/ she will normally ask a question why and how this comes out?

SOCIAL AWARENESS.

What happens to you is the same to what happens to other people, the principle is the same as long as we are all human beings, a work of our body and psychology is the same also therefore we both share the foundation of our flexible actions which are the reactions to our feelings. Being self aware will help you so much to become social aware, this will help you to understand why other people like your followers at work behave the way they behave, why does she/ he react this way today compared to yesterday? Self awareness empowers your empathy level to your people.

RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT

Your social awareness will definitely help you build a very good relationship with whom you are leading or working with. Whatever action or reaction done by your people, employees or followers will be responded relevant to its cause because you will find yourself in a position of trying to recognize a situation behind such a new behavior or reaction. You will end up giving him/ her chance to express her/ his feeling for the purpose of solving a problem. It might be due to a conflict happened between her/him with her/his couple at home, or financial breakdown that is why she/he is in bad temper.

EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP 

Succeeding to manage relationship due to your social awareness which is a result of yourself awareness will normally make you as a leader have right and fare decisions upon your followers. You will lead them in a proper manner which regard the situation behind the scene and this is what we call situational leadership and it is relevant to 21^st century because life challenges which makes people behaviors and reactions change everyday are increasing everyday due to economic and technological development. For you to be a 21^st century leader you have to learn and apply situational leadership style which is real flexible and it is according to the prevailing situation.

Goodluck!

By Erick Chrispin